I don’t normally read the Dr Phil website but I had a little extra time today so just started poking around and I decided to look at the show topics and guess what I saw: Do you want to be Married by end of 2009! It was too much of a coincidence! I’ve been telling my friends, I’m getting married next year! Of course, I haven’t figure out to who or how exactly but those details will just have to work themselves out. Here’s my plan so far:….
- Find a way to make it through the holidays and Valentines by myself (again)….
- Have brief weekend fling with member of my favorite band that’s coming to Dallas in March
- Meet Mr. Right in May
- Engaged by September
- Married in November
So far that’s my plan. Its probably not the soundest plan but its all I’ve got for right now. It may seem a bit hurried but I am getting older and a long engagement doesn’t seem called for, besides it is going to be Mr. Right…..
My friends are, reasonably, highly doubtful. I’m not sure if its my ability to attract a man or the irrationality of planning my wedding day before I meet the man.
Oh about me. I’m 42 years young and I’ve never been married. And up until the last couple of years I haven’t had an overwhelming desire to. I have a good life, good friends, good job, financial stability. I have a son who turns 14 (today actually!) and I didn’t really want bring a lot of relationship drama into his life (step dad, blending of families, etc) I’m also extremely lucky that my son has a fantastic father whom I have a great parenting relationship with. Yet for all his great qualities, my baby’s daddy just didn’t feel like the one for me. One of the things I’m proud of is that he’s (my son)only met one man I’ve ever dated and that only in the last couple of years.
My thinking has been shifting. I used to want my son to get older so I could ease up my mom job and start my life but as he gets older and gets more independent I’m starting to worry I’m going to be completely alone. Who am I going to come home to when he’s no longer there and doesn’t need me?
I thought I had a real shot at something long term but embarrassingly I got dumped twice by the same guy. I loved him he just didn’t love me back. What are you gonna do? Well what I do is, date a young one. They are fun and it’s a way to fill the ‘meantime’. There are actually some decent young men out there that are going to turn into great men with a little maturity. In my defense, I’m not out there chasing them but if the opportunity presents itself.
The problem and the frankly the safety in these types of relationship is you both know they are not long term. And I can admit that at this point in my life I want long term. I want a companion to through the second half of my life with. I’ve put the current young one on notice. His time is limited because I am getting married next year!
I’m sending this to Dr Phil to see if he can help!
